Reclaiming Your Sexuality After Divorce: Healing Shame & Trauma While Rediscovering Desire with Zoë Kors

In this powerful and refreshingly honest episode of Dishing on Divorce, hosts Mandy Pullen Barr and Deanna Coyle sit down with renowned sexologist, integrative somatic trauma therapist, and author Zoë Kors to explore one of the most tender, transformative, and commonly misunderstood parts of life after divorce: reclaiming your sexuality.

Zoë —author of Radical Intimacy and resident Sex & Intimacy Coach at The Choral Lab—has spent decades helping women heal shame, reconnect with their bodies, and rediscover desire after major life transitions. Her work blends science, spirituality, trauma healing, and emotional intelligence, making her the perfect guide for this conversation.

Together, we dive into:

• Why sexuality often shuts down during long-term marriages

• What a “sexless marriage” does to emotional and physical intimacy

• How cultural conditioning, religion, family messages, and early experiences create sexual shame

• The impact of menopause, hormones, and midlife changes on libido

• Navigating pornography and compulsive sexual behavior in relationships

• The fears many people face about dating, vulnerability, and being seen naked again

• What it truly means to build sexual confidence from the inside out

• How somatic healing, trauma work, and self-intimacy can transform your future relationships

Zoë offers gentle, insightful pathways for healing—reminding listeners that nothing is broken and nothing is wrong. Whether you’re single, newly divorced, in the early stages of healing, or beginning to imagine intimacy again, this episode gives you the compassion, wisdom, and possibility you’ve been craving.

She also shares two beautiful quotes from Buddhist teacher Pema Chödrön, including the powerful reminder: “You are the sky. Everything else is just weather.”

This conversation is vulnerable, warm, surprising, and deeply needed. It’s a celebration of resilience, pleasure, and the courage to rediscover who you are. ✨ If this episode resonates, please subscribe and leave us a five-star review — your support helps others find hope, healing, and their path forward.

Connect with Zoë: https://www.zoekors.com/

Get Zoë's book: https://bookshop.org/p/books/radical-intimacy-cultivate-the-deeply-connected-relationships-you-desire-and-deserve