Dishing on Divorce Podcast

Behind the Numbers: Divorce, Business Valuation & Hidden Assets with Erik Blaushield

In this eye-opening episode, Mandy and Deanna sit down with Erik Blaushield, a CPA and certified valuation analyst with over two decades of experience in business valuation, forensic accounting, and divorce-related financial analysis. Erik breaks down the often misunderstood world of valuing a business during divorce—what makes a company a marital asset, when it needs to be valued, and how claims like "it's worth nothing without me" don’t necessarily hold up.
The conversation dives deep into red flags for hidden assets, the nuances of cash-heavy businesses, and how forensic accountants trace money movement through complex financial statements, crypto accounts, and lifestyle clues. Erik also explains the importance of understanding how different assets, like stock options, RSUs, and retirement accounts, are not created equal when it comes to equitable division.
This episode is packed with practical advice for anyone navigating divorce involving businesses or complex finances. And yes, Erik also shares his favorite pizza toppings and the self-care ritual that helps him stay sane during tax season.
Whether you’re the business owner or the out-spouse trying to make sense of the numbers, this episode will leave you smarter, more confident, and better equipped to ask the right questions.
Contact Erik Blaushield
Email: eblaushield@lga.cpa
Website: https://www.lga.cpa/our-team/erik-blaushield/

Love, Loss & Motherhood: A Mother's Day Tribute with Deanna and Mandy

Mother’s Day Special: Honoring Our Moms, Grief, and the Beauty in the Mess
In this deeply personal and moving episode of Dishing on Divorce, hosts Mandy and Deanna set aside the usual script to open their hearts about love, loss, and motherhood. This year marks their first Mother’s Day without their moms—Mandy’s passed in September, and Deanna’s in January—and they invite listeners into a raw and honest conversation about what it means to grieve while still showing up as mothers themselves.
They reflect on their beautiful, complicated relationships with their moms, the healing they’ve done, and the surprising moments of laughter and joy that have surfaced in the midst of sorrow. From caregiver guilt to long-distance loss, from falling into the ocean fully clothed to cooking family recipes, Mandy and Deanna share poignant stories that make you smile, cry, and feel deeply seen.
This episode is for anyone navigating Mother’s Day with a heavy heart—whether you’ve lost your mom, are missing your kids, are in the thick of a divorce, or are working through a complicated relationship. It's a love letter to mothers of all kinds and a reminder that grief is not something to fix but to feel, and that healing often comes in the messiness of it all.
Contact Mandy and Deanna
Email: concierge@vestadivorce.com 
Phone: (877) 355-7649

Why Not Me? Reframing Pain into Purpose with Poonam Bhuchar

In this deeply moving episode of Dishing on Divorce, Mandy and Deanna sit down with the extraordinary Poonam Bhuchar, an attorney, mediator, TEDx speaker, divorce coach, and award-winning author of Saved From the Pain. With raw honesty and profound grace, Poonam shares her personal story of trauma, cultural stigma, loss, and, ultimately, radical healing.
Poonam introduces listeners to her transformative SAFE Method—Stop, Accept, Forgive, Embrace—a practical and soul-centered process born from her journey through emotional pain, chronic stress, divorce, and spiritual awakening. From surviving sexual assault and an abusive marriage to rebuilding her life after health crises and financial collapse, Poonam's story is a testament to the power of taking responsibility, releasing victimhood, and reclaiming joy.
Together, they explore what it means to forgive others—and ourselves—while discussing divorce's lasting impact on children, how emotional mastery influences legal outcomes, and why embracing our entire story (flaws and all) is essential to true self-love and growth. Whether you’re navigating a divorce, healing from past wounds, or simply seeking hope, this conversation is a beacon of light.
Tune in for insights, laughter, and inspiration—and be reminded that wherever you are in your journey, you are not alone.
Contact Poonam
Email: poonam@emotionallysafe.com
Website: https://www.emotionallysafe.com/
You can order her book on her website. 

Divorce, Disruption and Doing It Differently with Attorney Bobby Buchanan

In this enlightening episode of Dishing on Divorce, Mandy Pullen and Deanna Coyle welcome family law trailblazer Bobby Buchanan—founder of Buchanan Law Group, host of Illinois Divorce Guide Podcast and Illinois Divorce TV, and a proud member of the Vesta network.
Bobby is not your typical divorce attorney. With zero personal experience in divorce—but a deep well of empathy and emotional intelligence—he’s made it his mission to simplify the legal process, humanize the attorney-client relationship, and build a practice rooted in integrity, transparency, and tech-forward innovation.
He shares his journey from criminal defense to family law, and how his natural comfort with emotional conversations, paired with a passion for technology, led him to rethink the entire divorce experience. From hiring a full-time software developer to creating systems that reduce costs and increase efficiency, Bobby’s approach isn’t just modern—it’s revolutionary.
Bobby reminds us that the best attorneys aren’t in it to stir conflict—they’re in it to empower their clients to make thoughtful, forward-focused decisions. His commitment to conscious lawyering and heart-centered leadership is precisely why he’s such a natural fit with the Vesta community.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone considering divorce, curious about modern legal solutions, or simply seeking reassurance that it is possible to navigate difficult times with grace, clarity, and support.
Contact Bobby Buchanan
Email:  intake@rbbfirm.com
Website:  https://www.rbbfirm.com/
Illinois Divorce Guide Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/illinois-divorce-guide-expert-advice-for-navigating/id1804375768
Illinois Divorce TV: https://www.youtube.com/@IllinoisDivorceTV

The Power of Forgiveness: Emotional Alchemy with Simonne Rossi Paumard

In this deeply heartfelt episode of Dishing on Divorce, we welcome the luminous Simonne Rossi Paumard, transformational mindset coach, a retreat facilitator, and San Diego-based realtor originally from France. With grace, humor, and raw vulnerability, Simonne shares her extraordinary story of love, betrayal, reinvention, and ultimately liberation.
Simonne takes us back to a life-altering moment in September 2022, when she first reached out to Vesta, unsure of what questions to ask and emotionally frozen in the wake of discovering her husband’s affair. What followed was a courageous two-and-a-half-year journey through grief, growth, and self-representation as she navigated her own divorce, emerging stronger and more radiant than ever.
Together, we explore the power of forgiveness—not as a free pass, but as an act of liberation. Simonne’s reflections on parenting adult children through divorce, writing her book on compassionate communication, and choosing to forgive for the sake of her peace— and her smile —are unforgettable. She reminds us that forgiveness is emotional alchemy: the transformation of pain into purpose.
Now, as both a coach and a realtor, Simonne brings her signature blend of emotional intelligence, spiritual depth, and European elegance to guide women through life transitions, particularly those rooted in heartbreak and housing decisions.
With timeless wisdom like “you are not your past, but the infinite possibilities of the present moment,” Simonne inspires us all to clear out the dusty furniture of our old stories and welcome in the velvet sofa of possibility. 
Contact Simonne Rossi Paumard
Email: simonne.paumard@gmail.com
Buy Her Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CKBJZF9P?ref=yb_qv_ov_kndl_dp_rw
 

Prenups, Postnups and the Power of Preparation with Attorney Molly Wilson Chung

In this episode of Dishing on Divorce, we’re joined by Molly Wilson Chung, a highly respected family law attorney with over 16 years of experience navigating everything from high-net-worth divorces and custody disputes to uncovering hidden assets and guiding clients through mediation. Molly brings deep legal knowledge, compassionate counsel, and a gift for clear communication to every case—and this conversation is no exception.
Together, we explore the real purpose behind prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, dispel common myths, and discuss how these tools can actually foster transparency and long-term relationship success. Molly explains who should consider a prenup (hint: it’s not just for the wealthy), why timing matters, and how approaching your marriage with thoughtful planning can reduce conflict, protect both partners, and create peace of mind.
Molly’s insight goes beyond the legal—it’s about helping people make informed, values-based decisions during emotionally charged times. With warmth and wisdom, she shares how prenups and postnups can be tools for clarity rather than conflict, offering couples a framework to align on their future, protect what matters most, and reduce the stress of the unknown. 
Whether you're engaged, already married, or just curious, this must-listen episode will leave you more empowered, and maybe even rethinking what “forever” should look like. Tune in now to Dishing on Divorce—because planning for your future is one of the most loving things you can do.
Contact Molly Chung
(Office) 617-426-5900
(Email) chung@casneredwards.com
Contact Concierge
(Office) 877- 355-7649
(Email) conceirge@vestadivorce.com
 

Empowering Financial Decisions in Divorce with Glenn Crawford

Welcome to an insightful episode of our podcast, where we have the privilege of hosting Glenn Crawford, a seasoned Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, financial advisor, and mediator. With a rich background in financial planning and a personal understanding of the complexities of divorce, Glenn brings a wealth of knowledge and compassion to the table. He has been a cornerstone of Vesta's programs in Southern California, offering clarity and empowerment to those navigating the financial upheavals of divorce.
In this episode, Glenn delves into the critical aspects of managing finances during a divorce, including marital asset division, tax planning, and future financial security. His approachable style demystifies financial concepts, making them accessible and manageable, which is particularly comforting for anyone feeling overwhelmed by the divorce process.
Glenn's dedication is deeply personal; as someone who has experienced divorce both as a child and as an adult, he brings empathy and understanding to his work. He shares his journey and the lessons learned, emphasizing the importance of self-care and the courage required to make life-altering decisions.
Listeners will gain invaluable insights into the importance of a tailored financial strategy during divorce, distinguishing between general financial advice and the specialized guidance that a CDFA can offer. Glenn's stories of resilience and transformation are inspiring and a testament to the power of expert support during one of life's most challenging transitions.
Join us as Glenn Crawford helps illuminate the path to financial stability and personal freedom, offering hope and practical advice to those facing the financial intricacies of divorce.
Contact Glenn Crawford
Email: glenn@strategicdivorceplanning.com
Schedule: https://calendly.com/gcrawford
 
Contact Deanna and Mandy
Email: Concierge@vestadivorce.com
Call: (877) 355-7649

Healing Your Psychological Love Life with Dr. Thomas Jordan

In this enlightening episode of "Dishing on Divorce," we welcomed Dr. Thomas Jordan, a distinguished clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, and author, who brings over three decades of expertise in reshaping love life patterns. Dr. Jordan, a clinical associate professor of psychology at New York University and founder of LoveLifeLearningCenter.com, shares transformative insights from his book, "Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life."
Throughout our discussion, Dr. Jordan unveils the psychological blueprints formed by our early relationship experiences and offers practical strategies for unlearning harmful patterns to foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships. His unique approach connects clinical research to real-life examples, making the concepts accessible and relatable. Listeners will discover how to navigate the complexities of love and relationships with newfound clarity and purpose.
Whether between relationships or seeking to improve your current one, Dr. Jordan's expertise in identifying and altering subconscious influences on our love lives is invaluable. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to transform their approach to love and relationships. It provides tools for recovery from past hurts and building a future of healthier, more satisfying connections.
Tune in to learn how to take control of your love life by understanding and reshaping the deep-seated patterns that govern your relationships. Dr. Jordan's insights offer a roadmap to personal growth and happiness in love, making this episode a beacon for anyone on the path to emotional healing and relationship fulfillment.
Contact Dr. Thomas Jordan
Email: drtmjordan@gmail.com
Website: https://lovelifelearningcenter.com/
Buy the Book: Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life

Dispelling Divorce Myths: Separating Fact from Fiction with Deanna and Mandy

In this engaging episode of "Dishing on Divorce," hosts Mandy Pullen Barr and Deanna Coyle tackle the pervasive myths surrounding divorce and contrast them with many people's realities. The episode, aptly titled "Myths Versus Reality," sheds light on the misrepresentations of divorce often seen in movies and media, specifically discussing the impact of films like "War of the Roses."
Throughout the episode, Mandy and Deanna emphasize that divorce does not always necessitate a fierce legal battle. They explore alternative dispute resolutions, such as mediation and collaborative law, which can prevent the high costs and emotional strain of court proceedings. The hosts address common misconceptions, such as the idea that hiring a lawyer will immediately lead to litigation, and discuss the practical aspects of negotiations and legal representation.
They debunk myths about the impact of divorce on children and property rights. They share their experiences, highlighting the importance of making well-informed decisions about parenting arrangements and living situations during separation. They advise listeners to avoid setting negative precedents affecting custody and property rights.
The hosts also reassure those worried about loneliness or financial instability after divorce, especially later in life. They encourage listeners to view divorce as an opportunity for personal rediscovery and emphasize the importance of building a supportive community.
This episode effectively dispels fears and myths, providing listeners with a clearer understanding of their options and the potential for a positive future post-divorce.

Unpacking the Complexities of Divorce After 50 with Attorney Lisa Cukier

In this insightful episode of "Dishing on Divorce," Mandy Pullen Barr interviews Lisa Cukier, a renowned family law attorney specializing in complex divorce scenarios. Lisa discusses the challenges and intricacies of midlife divorce, bringing her vast expertise to the table and illuminating the unique aspects of divorces later in life, particularly those involving family businesses, large estates, and long-term marriages.
The conversation delves deep into what Lisa terms "gray divorce," where the dissolution involves not just the separation of lives but also the division of substantial assets accumulated over decades. They discuss the critical need for strategic legal and financial planning, especially when one partner may have foregone career opportunities for family responsibilities, significantly impacting their financial stability post-divorce.
Lisa also highlights the importance of understanding the nuances of alimony laws, estate inheritance, and the potential complexities of postnuptial agreements. The discussion broadens to address the often-overlooked emotional and logistical challenges faced by couples navigating divorce in their 50s and beyond, including the adjustments required when dealing with adult children, potential inheritances, and re-entering the workforce.
This episode is particularly valuable for exploring protective measures such as prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, the role of financial analysts in asset division, and the strategic use of legal counsel to safeguard one's financial future. Lisa and Mandy underscore the critical role of comprehensive planning and expert guidance in ensuring that individuals facing midlife divorce can achieve fair outcomes and secure financial futures.
Contact Lisa
Lisa Cukier - Divorce Attorney, Rubin and Rudman
(Office) 617.330.7008
(Cell) 617-966-9582
(Email) lcukier@rubinrudman.com